Key to success
How to attract love, success and happiness into your life
Key to success? Do you want to know how I attract love, success and happiness in my life? And you can too?
When I was young I was full of ambition, determination and wasn’t afraid of anything. Or so I thought.
I believed I was strong and knew exactly the direction I should head in.
I pushed hard to forge an acting career.
When I met a man, whom I thought was perfect, I threw myself into making sure he’d feel the same about me.
Then my life fell apart.
Within a few years, I was trapped in a cycle of violence with this man of my dreams. An abusive man who almost murdered me, when I was 7 months pregnant to him.
I had ignored all the red flags and warning signs that were there at the start. He had actually shown me who he really was all along – a man damaged by a difficult past.
But, instead of seeing this, I projected a fantasy image onto him. Of someone, I hoped him to be.
A dream of the man he might one day become if I could rescue and fix him, love him enough to heal his wounds. He needed me, I thought.
The violence got worse. My life spiralled downhill.
The more I tried to control it, to change my behaviour to try to fix him, the more uncontrollable my life became.
I hit rock bottom.
One day I found the courage and strength and fled with my baby in search of my freedom.
Spiritual growth
Then I found the power within me to completely change my life forever.
I found the secret to attracting lasting, healthy love, success and happiness into my life. It was simpler and more life-changing than I ever thought possible.
There is a beautiful poem from the 13th Century Persian poet and Sufi mystic, Rumi, that sums up my philosophy to life now:
When I run after what I think I want, my days are a furnace of distress and anxiety.
If I sit in my own place of patience, what I need flows to me, and without any pain.
From this, I understand that what I want also wants me, is looking for me and attracting me.
There is a great secret in this for anyone who can grasp it.
– Rumi
When I was pushing hard in the direction of my stubborn self-will, certain of what was the right way to go for me, I sent myself down the wrong path.
I was so caught up in the chaos and drama my life had become, I was dragged down into a painful vortex I felt there was no escape from.
I thought I knew the answers and could control everything. I was wrong.
Key to success
Then, I realised I had no choice but to let go. Everything I’d tried had failed.
It was time to surrender to the universe. That’s what I did – I learnt to be still within myself.
Realising I couldn’t change anything or anyone around me, came as a huge relief to me. I could let go of trying.
What was within my grasp though, was that I could change ME.
Personality development
I could learn to love myself. And trust that if I focus on becoming the best person I could be, aligned as closely as possible to my core values, beliefs and goals, the rest would follow.
That’s exactly what happened.
I started to see the signs. The Little Miracles as I call them. The ones that I’d been too blind and deaf to see and hear before. The ones my absolute certainty, determination and self-will drowned and blocked out.
The secret law of attraction
A person would come into my life and tell me exactly what I needed to learn about myself. And I would grow.
An opportunity would come up, I normally would never have taken, that became a Sliding Door moment in my career.
I’d been doing okay as an actor but kept missing out on major parts. But I was determined to ‘make it’ and kept pulsing with ambition.
I became a Foreign Correspondent, but in truth, I was never a great one. I look back now and realise I wasn’t quite talented enough in either role.
But when I let go my true calling found me.
Attract success
I forged a far more successful career as a Documentary Executive Producer, the job I am sure now I was born to do.
The doors opened up and incredible opportunities kept presenting themselves to me.
A life of exciting adventure and travels followed.
Attract love
When it came to dating as a young, single mother, I let go and trusted if a relationship was meant to be it would be. The right man would find me.
If not, it didn’t matter. I was good enough without a man.
When I met the man I’m married to now, I didn’t project onto him. I held onto my belief that if it was meant to be it would be.
It turns out it was meant to be, and we’ve just celebrated our 30th wedding anniversary and are still best friends.
I know now that when I start to push towards what I think is best for me and obstacles keep appearing, it’s a sign I need to let go again. I’m only getting in my own way.
When I stay still there’s no stress or anxiety. There’s no need to be.
Attract happiness
What is right for me will flow, effortlessly and without pain. When I need to know the answers, they will come. And sure enough, they do.
Sometimes they’re unexpected ones, but if I trust and go with the flow they will always lead me to amazing places.
There have been a few bumps and painful times along the way, of course – but they’ve always turned out to be lessons I need to learn to grow further.
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The more I grow, the better at being still within me I become.
How to be happy
I don’t recognise the person I was when I was young, or how painful and fearful my life once was.
I have found the true meaning of courage and strength and that is simply to let go and trust in the universe.
I no longer fear the unknown or my future and when those Sliding Door moments come along, I lean in and walk right through them, excited about embracing what is to come.
My life is full of happiness, adventure and love. I’m the person I was born to be. I am living the limitless life I was born and deserve to live.
You can too. If you just let go, be still and in the silence let what is seeking you find you.
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